Monday, October 10, 2016
InStep Joins Women's Lab at CSI NYC
The Women's Lab will pave the way for focused programming, storytelling of member successes, and access to a vibrant and robust alumni network. CSI is in a position to provide Women's Lab members with targeted connections and even more relevant resources and networks, ultimately accelerating our impact on the world.
Overall, Centre for Social Innovation is a space created exclusively for individuals and organizations with a social mission. I'm so excited to join this thriving community of social entrepreneurs, nonprofits, creatives, and innovators who are changing the world! Oh, and did I mention: not only can CSI members recycle, but there is also onsite FOOD SCRAP collection for COMPOSTING!!
If you're in the NYC area, stop by to say HELLO! :-)
Monday, October 15, 2012
How Can I Find a Mentor to Help Me Succeed
Q: How would I find a mentor, preferably of the same gender, who is already working in the field I am interested in?
A from Coach Colette:
In addition to exploring whether your company has a formal mentoring program, you should consider other external resources to find a mentor.
Find professional organizations that offer a supportive environment and opportunities for you to meet other women (or men -- depending on your goal). Expand your network by attending activities and events where you can interact with your potential mentors (e.g., networking events, workshops, industry groups, alumni functions, sporting events, etc.).
Seek out champions and connectors in your existing network:
- A champion is someone typically higher up the ladder with whom you have worked and have a good rapport. This can be a former boss, partner, client, or even a supplier/vendor who would vouch for your capabilities. If your champion is internal to your company, s/he may be a great ally during the performance management process -- either s/he can share feedback directly with your manager or s/he can advise you on how best to navigate the process. If your champion works elsewhere, s/he may be a great reference as you seek new job opportunities.
- A connector is someone who seems to know everyone and who is willing to use their network on your behalf -- to make introductions and put you in touch with the right people in their network. Similar to above, your connectors can help you to meet influential people both within your existing company and outside the company but within your industry.
When you receive business cards from your champions and connectors, write down their interests and goals on the back so you’ll remember what’s important to them. Then, you can share information that would be helpful or interesting to them.
Be a connector yourself – help your champions and connectors to meet relevant contacts in your network. Don't sell yourself or your contacts short -- too often, we think that mentoring and networking is only a one-way street. If your champions and connectors see you as someone who is helpful, they’ll be more likely to help you too.
What do YOU think? Have you had a mentor who has helped you to succeed? How did you find him/her? What was the best advice you received from your mentor? Let me know in the comments here or tweet me on Twitter.
Thursday, December 29, 2011
Learn How to Network to Grow Your Net Worth - December 30
If you don't know the difference between the two, then you should definitely tune in online Friday, December 30 at 8 pm ET as I share my strategic networking tips with Sophie Gold, as a guest on Life, Love & Tequila. Her co-host will be Melissa Wildstein, co-founder of 'PRENEUR.
It's been said that it's not WHAT you know but WHO you know. In today's New Normal of rapid change and pervasive technology, your challenge is figuring out how to strategically expand your network and make new, lasting connections -- fast! Sounds like an oxymoron, right? Well, with the right coaching you can learn how to tap into your network, create compelling messages that empower your connections to make the right introductions, AND know how to return the favor!
Join the event to participate live online and ask us a text question to share your biggest networking challenge or best networking success story of 2011.
Saturday, April 30, 2011
Get Social! Expand Your Network on May 7
Come out for a fun day of networking, learning, socializing, information sharing and connecting. Meet owners of over 30 of the city's leading lifestyle companies at the Expo who will be onsite to offer brief consultations, demonstrations and mini-classes.
May 7 will be a great opportunity to learn more about my Focus on Your Vision eBook, strategic coaching programs, and my upcoming launch of a NEW holistic health collective! The Expo runs from 1:00-7:00 pm and is FREE to attend.
During the day, there also will be several themed activities to help you expand your network, including:
- Historic Brooklyn Bridge Walking Tour
- South Street Seaport Scavenger Hunt
- Latin/Ballroom Dancing Lessons
- Speed Dating
After the Expo, there will be a fun Happy Hour at Sequoia's Tropical Bar. Plus, a social networking dance party so you can continue connecting with all of your new friends!
If you set an intention in 2011 to expand your network, learn a new skill, or explore what New York City has to offer, come out and join us on Saturday, May 7 at the Social Events Expo. Post a comment or tweet me if you're planning to attend. Look forward to seeing you there!
Thursday, March 24, 2011
NEW Podcast: Master the Art of Strategic Networking
So, you know that we're all connected to other people in some way -- through family, friends, neighborhoods, schools or employers. And, you know that if you talk to enough people, you'll eventually meet someone who knows the person you want to meet (and is willing to introduce you). But, in today's New Normal, who has that kind of time??
It's time that you master the art of Strategic Networking -- the process of strategically looking at your connections and creating compelling messages that empower your connections to say: "YES, I know who it is you need to meet, and YES, I want to help you meet them!"
When thinking of who in my network I could ask to shed some additional light on the subject, I could think of no better person than the Queen of Networking -- Executive Recruiter, Paula Marks. Paula, also President of Hire Resources, Inc. has been professionally connecting people to one another for over three decades. Her business network is rooted in a lifetime of successful Human Resource management, executive recruiting, and a vast rolodex of professional contacts.
In our podcast, Paula and I share tips on strategic networking, including how to craft clear, concise communications that make other people listen and want to take action -- which is to help you connect with their connections. We also share some networking pitfalls to avoid so you'll be able to maintain and deepen your most important network relationships.
After you listen to the podcast, let me know what your think -- share your networking success stories and/or lessons learned. How quickly do YOU follow-up after meeting someone new? How do YOU let a connection know that you respect his/her time when reaching out? Comment here on the blog, or tweet me your thoughts on Twitter -- @Coach_Colette.
Friday, January 22, 2010
Have You Defined Your 2010 Social Media Strategy?
Tune in on Sunday evening (1/24/2010 at 5 PM EST) to hear my pals from "down under" - Career Success Radio hosts Keith Keller and Annemarie Cross as they discuss how to select YOUR best social media platform (i.e. LinkedIn, Facebook, Twitter etc.) and how to leverage your social media platform in YOUR job search, career management or business development.
Guest experts include: Daulton West Jr., Melissa Martin and Coach Colette Ellis.
In addition to sharing how these platforms differ, I'll also be offering tips on how to create YOUR best 140-character pitch to share with the Twitterverse! You may recall this discussion from last February - well, you'll be able to build on those ideas to include the new developments and Twitter companion sites that have been created since then (e.g., TweetMyJobs.com).
If you are able to listen in live, the Career Success Radio phone lines and chat room will be open. Ring in via (914) 338 0714 and get expert career advice. You can also listen to the show recording HERE on the blog via the widget below.
If you have a job-search or career related question, tweet us in advance: @Coach_Colette or @careerradio. One question will be selected to be answered live on air the show. And, the Career Success Expert Panel will answer questions in the online forum.
Tuesday, December 08, 2009
Professional Holiday Parties - Tips to Help You to Shine
You'll notice that the post was written in December 2005 (yes, I've been blogging for over four years now!). I think the tips are still appropriate; what do you think?
In today's economy, I'd probably add a few more suggestions:
- Determine which of the events will give you your "biggest bang for the buck." You'll want to budget for holiday events just as you would any other networking events. Survey all of the events in your area that interest you, and prioritize them in order of relevance to your 2010 personal/professional goals. Perhaps one well-selected "high-ticket" event will expand your network more than several lower cost ones.
- Be a connector – help others to meet relevant contacts in your network. Networking is also about what you can give -- and, 'tis the season to give! If people see you as someone who is helpful, they’ll be more likely to help you. This relates to my next tip ...
- Be conscientious about your follow-up. LISTEN more than you're speaking when you meet new people. Take note of their interests and goals. For those people with whom you'd like to stay in contact, make time to share information that would be helpful or interesting to them.
- When someone asks, “What’s new?” be prepared with an answer that might make someone say "WOW!" We all have experienced some challenges this year; and yet, inspiring stories are always good to hear. This might require some additional thought -- think of the good things that have happened this year; think of the positive people in your support circle; think of the small wins you've already achieved. I'm confident you can come up with a couple of ideas.
Wednesday, September 09, 2009
Coach Colette is Back in the Classroom
- Resolve interpersonal challenges diplomatically
- Communicate goals and expectations clearly
- Motivate others to share in your vision
Monday, May 04, 2009
Get Career Tips from HR InSiders - NEW Podcast Series
ur first guest InSide the HR Studio is Bernie Frazier, Vice President of Talent Acquisition for Fleishman-Hillard, a global PR consultancy. Based in St. Louis, Bernie manages all recruiting efforts for Fleishman in the U.S., Canada, Latin America, South America and Australia. In addtion to being responsible for their U.S. immigration program, she also manages employee relations and a team of corporate recruiters.
Friday, April 17, 2009
Coach Colette on Career Communique Radio, 4/19 6PM EDT
Blog Talk Radio is hosting What’s Your WOW! Factor? featuring me on Sunday, April 19, 2009 from 6pm to 6:30pm EDT. Join Annemarie Cross and Keith Keller of Career Communiqué Radio as they interview me LIVE all the way from Australia!
I'll be discussing how to leverage your strengths and create a buzz about your accomplishments, and how you can position yourself for new opportunities to achieve your career and professional goals.
If you have any questions you would like answered BEFORE the show, leave a message on the Competent Advantage message line at: (214) 615-6505, ext. 6717 OR you can tweet the coach on Twitter at: http://twitter.com/Coach_Colette.
During the show, the live chat feature will be operational on Career Communiqué Radio; alternatively you can ring in live and share your question/comment with Annemarie, Keith & I on: (914) 338 0714.
And, remember to pop across and join us at our InStep Consulting Fan page on Facebook: http://companies.to/InStep_Consulting. Looking forward to chatting with you on Sunday!
Monday, February 09, 2009
How Do You Keep Your Brand On the Grid?
I'd invite you to listen, download and share my latest podcast called: How to Stay on the Grid: Networking 2.0. This is a discussion with Adrian Miller, President & Founder of Adrian Miller Sales Training.
In this podcast, we discuss the new rules of the game of networking 2.0 - which is about more than just using various social media tools, like Twitter or Facebook. Adrian and I talk about the difference between linear and circular networking, and explain which approach can be more effective in helping you to become a true connector. And, when you listen, you'll find out why being a connector is a crucial component to your personal and professional success.
So, take a listen and get some concrete tips on how to take your networking skills to the next level. You may also want to read an interesting article on Identifying Your Networking Strengths and Weaknesses by Ivan Miser.
After you have listened to the podcast and read the article, share your networking success stories - tweet me or post them in the comments.
Monday, November 24, 2008
Coach Colette Gets Canned on December 16th!
OK, now that I have your attention, let me tell you about an exciting career and social networking event on Tuesday, December 16, from 7:00 - 10:00 PM called Get Canned.Being laid off, or 'getting canned,' rarely has a positive side to it; but, Get Canned takes a positive spin and embraces the theme - collecting canned goods for the Food Bank for New York City in place of a cover charge to attend the event.
I'll be on hand in the Elevation Lounge to answer your questions and offer complimentary laser-coaching sessions. Get the guidance and support you need to face (and embrace) your career transition! One lucky raffle winner will win a FREE CAREER COACHING PACKAGE!
You CAN do it – I did!
Nearly six years ago, I found out that my position would be eliminated because of a company merger. Ironically, that was my second "downsizing" experience within 13 months! The way I saw it, I had two choices [now I know there were many others too!]:
What did I do? I leveraged my contacts and skills, and chose the latter option. I’ve spent the past six years building my consulting and coaching practice to the level it is today. Come to Get Canned on December 16 to learn how you too can transition into success in 2009!
Healthy mind -- healthy body -- healthy career! 
Equinox Fitness will have personal trainers onsite to answer your questions and help plan your 2009 fitness routine. They're donating a FREE MEMBERSHIP pass to the raffle!
Tuesday, September 16, 2008
How Do You Use the 'Net to Network?
Since 2008 is truly my year of technology & Web 2.0, I thought I'd give her a hand by encouraging you to participate in the survey. You don't have to be a DWC member (although it's pretty cool if you do decide to join) to complete it. AND, you can earn a discounted DWC+ membership (or renewal) after you're done.
Given the potential career impact of recent Wall Street events, being able to access and leverage one's network efficiently will be critical. After you complete the survey, feel free to share your online networking tools and tips. I was delighted to learn that I've added some NEW online tools to my toolbox since the last DWC Networking Survey (2006), like Twitter. What about you?
How do you use technology/Web 2.0 to your competent advantage TM?
Tuesday, August 05, 2008
Colette is Coach at Nonprofit Boot Camp August 16
This promises to be a a day of knowledge, resources and networking, all focused on how to start and run a vibrant nonprofit. Nonprofit Boot Camp is designed to educate and empower the next generation of nonprofit leaders and social entrepreneurs. Event highlights include:
- A choice of over 20 interactive workshops and panels across 5 - 10 educational tracks, covering the essentials of starting and running a nonprofit or social enterprise
- More than 100 partner organizations, representing virtually every local nonprofit management support resource
- Appearances and keynote speeches from leading figures
PLUS Individual "Laser Coaching" Sessions -- I'll be one of the coaches available to meet with you between 10:30 AM -12:30 PM to discuss your career strategy.
Your $75 registration fee includes a full day of workshops, keynotes, Exhibit Hall access, one-on-one coaching, and the opportunity to network and collaborate with 1,000 emerging and established nonprofit leaders. Hope to see you there! :)
PS -- if you're on the West Coast, there's a similar event being held on October 18 in San Francisco.
Monday, July 07, 2008
Summer Dating is an Adventure - Don't Get Stressed Out!
It occurred to me that many of my work-life balance posts and podcasts have focused on the professional or "work" side of the equation. Perhaps that's because I come into this work from the Training & Career Development world.
So, I began to think: What areas on the "life" side can often cause people stress? DUH! How about meeting new people -- whether it's on the personal side of dating or on the social side of networking and making new friends. Urban dating (and socializing) is an adventure! That's why it's great to have groups like Meet Market Adventures who organize structured activities like white water rafting -- at least it takes the stress of planning out of the equation. Then, you can focus on getting there ... and, of course, what you'll wear! [Check out the podcast for Andrea's funny anecdote about attire/makeup for a jogging event.]
We all know that our personal networks can be a source of support in our fast-paced, hectic world. Yet, attracting the right people into our personal network can sometimes be a challenge. In this podcast, Andrea and I discuss tips to manage your expectations when you meet new people at social events and hints on how to make yourself more attractive to potential friends and mates. I also talk about my BOLD move of attending MMA events alone -- which Andrea thinks can be a good strategy.
If you’re a reader/listener in the New York City area, do keep Thursday, July 24th at 6:00 PM open for the next Meet Market Adventures Singles After-Work mixer at Duvet Lounge. You’ll have an opportunity to mingle, meet and network with over 300 singles in a "hip" setting. Andrea and her team will have some fun icebreaker activities so you can practice the suggestions we discuss on our podcast! Arrive early and your name will be entered in their Grand Prize Draw of an all expense paid White Water Rafting Trip.
Sign up on their website for and take advantage of this interactive evening of contests, prizes, food & dancing, for only $19.99. This is definitely a party you won't want to miss!
Tuesday, May 27, 2008
Colette is Featured Expert in MOLI Small Business Center

Tuesday, March 11, 2008
InStep Consulting is on Facebook!
It's a new world for me. But, yesterday I did a walkthrough of the page with my newest associate, Natasha, who will be helping me get things set up. I've already become a "fan" of my partner groups -- Downtown Women's Club and the JI Group and will be looking out for my other partner organizations. We'll also be posting some photos from our seminars and programs.
As with any other interactive, social networking site, the InStep Consulting Facebook page will be what you make of it! So, stop by to start a conversation on the discussion board about a career development or work-life balance issue you're facing; or post your photo and become a "fan" if you're so inclined! There's also a "share this on Facebook" link on this blog; so, you can post articles you read here for more discussion amongst your friends and colleagues.
It may be a bit of a challenge to manage all of my online sites; but, I'm hoping that the feeds from this blog will soon appear on Facebook. So, I can write to you while I'm on the road on my NEW project with the Public Library Association (more to come ...) See you on Facebook!
Tuesday, October 23, 2007
Are You a Savvy Online Networker?
Last week, I recorded a podcast with Diane Danielson, founder & CEO of Downtown Women's Club (DWC). Since it's launch in 1998, DWC has become a great online social network and in-person community (10+ US-regional chapters) for business and professional women.
Diane recently co-authored a book with Lindsey Pollak called The Savvy Gal's Guide to Online Networking -- Or What Jane Austen Would Do. She and I shared tips and ideas about online social networks ...
- Why we sometimes avoid using online social networks
- How to pick the best online networks for you
- How good "net-iquette" can improve your chances of making the right connections
PS -- it's not too late to support our Passionately PINK for the Cure team at: http://www.komendonations.org/site/TR/Events/KomenTR?team_id=58260&pg=team&fr_id=1040
Thursday, August 02, 2007
I'm Giving Broads an Advantage on Aug. 6
Broad Advantage is a one-week immersion in the professional world. My session on Networking is just one of many offered by fellow 85 Broad members and other dynamic speakers to help prepare these women for leadership and career success. We get to share tips and exchange ideas with 120+ college women who were accepted to participate in either the NYC or Los Angeles program.
This is just one of the many fantastic programs created by Janet Hanson (former leader at Goldman Sachs -- hence the name of the organization, which is the NYC address) and her team at 85 Broads. Founded in 1999 as a network for current and former GS female professionals, 85 Broads now has over 17,000 members worldwide. Their mission:
I can't wait to be make some great, new connections on August 6!
Wednesday, April 25, 2007
Network with Me in NYC: April 28, 7:00 PM
- Want to meet FUN urban professionals?
- Want to talk with ME about Career Development or Stress Management coaching?
- Want to learn about FUN, getaway ideas to ease your stress?
If you answered YES to one or more of the above, join me this SATURDAY, APRIL 28 at the New York Networking, Introductions & Activities Expo!
DATE: Saturday, April 28, 2007
TIME: 7-10 PM for Expo. 10 PM - 1 AM for Party
LOCATION: Columbus 72 at 246A Columbus Avenue at 72nd Street (Next to China Fun restaurant)
ADMISSION: $15 includes: Expo admission, complimentary beverage, light snacks and admission to DJ dance party
MORE: Following the Expo the exhibitors will take down their tables, and you are invited to stay for a night of DJ dancing at New York's Newest Fun dance club -- Columbus 72.
Over 20 top organizations specializing in bringing busy NY professionals together for fun, friendships, business and romance will be on hand with staff, displays and information for you. This includes: New York Social Network, Social Circles, Club Getaway, The Lunch Club, and
Meet Market Adventures.
For a full list of exhibitors, visit http://www.nyexpo.net.
SEE YOU ON SATURDAY!!




