Sunday, July 29, 2007
Women Bloggers Rock!
Keep an eye out on this blog for feedback and tips from my session on Coaching & Mentoring (they had live bloggers at the conference who captured key points from all the sessions!).
Also, keep an eye on the blogroll, as I'll be reviewing blogs of the women that I met and will add those I think are relevant to this community.
QUICK REMINDER: Tomorrow night (July 30, 8:00 PM EDT), I'll be chatting with Dr. Marianna Lead on Life Coach TV, a prime time live cable show in Manhattan that introduces people to the field of coaching. Tune in to learn more about my coaching practice and how I work with clients online at: http://www.mnn.org.
Friday, July 20, 2007
Be Well & Look Great on Thursday, July 26!

Wednesday, July 18, 2007
Why I'm Not a "Cookie-Cutter" Coach
"Why can't you just come up with five "simple" tips?"
When I suggested that it wasn't that easy, my new acquaintance decided to describe a person-in-need to "help" me respond: "The person works 60-hours per week, has two kids at home, and is stressed by the competing work-life demands." OK, now we're getting somewhere!
I paused and asked: Is the person a man or a woman? "He is a man." As I was about to ask my next question (Does he own the business or does he work for someone else?), my friend lost it. "How hard can this be? I know the answers. For ME, it would be ..." That's when I realized -- I'm not a cookie-cutter coach!
Could I have shared five generic stress reduction tips? Absolutely! However, I attempted to ask questions so that I could learn more about the "person" and be able to share ideas that would be relevant and helpful. That's how I approach all aspects of my work, whether it's consulting, training or coaching. I ask questions to learn about my client's needs -- to get into their world -- so that I can provide informed feedback or resources.
We are all unique and, therefore, we experience stress in different ways. Responses to work-life demands vary between men and women. The work-life challenges of business owners are typically different than those of employees. It's with this knowledge that I resist providing cookie-cutter responses!
OK, I get it (I'm a New Yorker). You're still waiting for my Top 5 tips. I can share what often works for me:
- Listening to music
- Talking to someone from my "right people, right energy" team
- Changing my setting/perspective
- Aromatherapy candles
- Positive self-talk
What works for you? :)
Monday, July 16, 2007
Colette Joins BeWellLiving.com!
I'm excited to announce that I've recently joined the team of contributors to BeWellLiving.com! What is BeWell? - MIND
- BODY
- SOUL
- LIVING SPACE
- MONEY & CAREER
- LIFE & FUN
Take a peek at the *new* website and learn more about Member-only benefits (special offers and cool discounts). Have a great week -- BE WELL!
Monday, July 09, 2007
Coach vs. Mentor: How do you choose?
Happy Monday to all!
I’m doing a little research to learn more about what motivates people to hire coaches as opposed to (or in addition to) seeking advice from mentors.
At the end of the month, I'll be leading a workshop on Coaching & Mentoring at the BlogHer ’07 conference (a cool gathering of bloggers from across the country). To help prepare for the session, I’ve created two brief surveys (no more than 6 questions) to hear from both “sides of the fence,” and I’d love to receive your input!
- If you ARE a coach, then take this survey: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.aspx?sm=URexpjd5p_2fj3S510ZtWvcw_3d_3d
- If you have RECEIVED HELP from a mentor OR a coach, then take this survey: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.aspx?sm=5OvyjyZBWyGvRjJz2hyGPQ_3d_3d
By the way, you can learn more about the session and how to register for BlogHer at: http://blogher.org/node/19422
Thanks, and have a great week!
Friday, June 29, 2007
Can You Really Unplug?
It’s so easy to get information and stay connected these days. As an entrepreneur, I recognize how important it is to stay in touch – with clients, colleagues, as well as friends and family. As a stress management coach, however, I often wonder how our wireless tools truly impact our ability to manage and reduce our stress. Do we really need to be reachable anytime, anywhere?
How often do you spend during the day without any communication devices? Could you make it through one day device-free? I’m talking about no phone, no mP3 player, no laptop, no TV, no PDA, no computer. Maybe it’s not a practical suggestion; but I invite you to take me up on my challenge for as long as you could stand it.
What would you do with all that silence? How about quieting your mind? It’s a quick stress-reducing exercise. Want to learn how? When you can, find a quiet space and then:
- Close your eyes and slowly relax your limbs to let go of the tension in your muscles.
- Slowly breathe in and out to the count of four.
- As you breathe slowly and relax your limbs, focus on a word such as calm, sky, ocean or peace.
- Concentrate your mental energy on your word as you continue deep breathing. If other thoughts come to mind, let them pass through. Refocus on your word and continue to breathe and relax.
Tuesday, June 26, 2007
New Look & Feel
As you can see, the Competent AdvantageTM community has a new look and feel. We've updated the site with some fun new features including:
- ClickComments are those icons that will now appear at the bottom of each post. If you don't feel like writing a long soliloquy, you can click on the icon that best matches your feelings about the post.
- Blog Archive is a more organized way of keeping track of previous posts. I'll also continue to use labels so you can find posts that match your interests.
- Blogroll will keep a running list of our favorite blogs. If you have a blog that you think would be of interest to our community, send me the link and I'll check it out. Then, we can talk about exchanging links to add you to our blogroll.
Summer promises to be busy here at InStep. I have two summer associates (Farjana -- Brooklyn College & Julie -- Teachers College/Columbia) who are working on our training programs as they get an inside peek into the world of consulting.
Stay tuned for updates on July events -- another ME TIME segment on Own Your Power Radio and my panel discussion on Coaching & Mentoring at the BlogHer conference in Chicago!
Sunday, June 03, 2007
Stressed about Getting Downsized? Tune in to Own Your Power TONIGHT at 8:00 PM EDT
If these are issues you're facing now (or will be in the near future), tune in tonight at 8:00 PM EDT. You can either listen online for live streaming, or if you're in the Miami area, listen to NewsTalk WTPS Radio at 1080 on your AM dial.
You can also call us with your questions at: 877-825-1080. Visit: http://www.wtps1080am.com
Friday, June 01, 2007
I'm Back ... Mea Culpa & Update
May was a whirlwind full of exciting consulting projects (Public Speaking Course for at-risk youth & Business Writing Course for rating analysts) and two speaking engagements.
Flowing out of the Create a Buzz! component of Competent Advantage TM, I delivered two presentations on the Art of Self Promotion. The first was for the Manhattan Chapter of the National Coalition of 100 Black Women as part of their annual Re-Tooling spring seminar. And, I've just returned from Richmond, VA after speaking at the 33rd Annual National Conference sponsored by the Urban Financial Services Coalition.
The great part about being offline for a bit was the opportunity to meet some of you and hear first-hand some of the challenges you're facing related to self-marketing and creating a buzz. I'd like to bring a few of them back online to this community and invite your thoughts and comments, particularly in response to the following:
When we market ourselves and our ideas is their a difference in perception (especially along the Passive --> Aggressive continuum) depending on our:
- Gender
- Ethnicity/Culture
- Geography
These items may seem obvious; however, I'm interested in your opinions and experiences. I was reminded of the last issue (geography) near the beginning of my presentation in Richmond, as participants shared experiences of how not "standing out" can be an asset in a more southern environment. As a New Yorker, I wasn't expecting that response; but the discussion was interesting and informative.
So, what do you think? What challenges have you had with promoting your ideas in the workplace? Any successes to report?
Wednesday, April 25, 2007
Network with Me in NYC: April 28, 7:00 PM
- Want to meet FUN urban professionals?
- Want to talk with ME about Career Development or Stress Management coaching?
- Want to learn about FUN, getaway ideas to ease your stress?
If you answered YES to one or more of the above, join me this SATURDAY, APRIL 28 at the New York Networking, Introductions & Activities Expo!
DATE: Saturday, April 28, 2007
TIME: 7-10 PM for Expo. 10 PM - 1 AM for Party
LOCATION: Columbus 72 at 246A Columbus Avenue at 72nd Street (Next to China Fun restaurant)
ADMISSION: $15 includes: Expo admission, complimentary beverage, light snacks and admission to DJ dance party
MORE: Following the Expo the exhibitors will take down their tables, and you are invited to stay for a night of DJ dancing at New York's Newest Fun dance club -- Columbus 72.
Over 20 top organizations specializing in bringing busy NY professionals together for fun, friendships, business and romance will be on hand with staff, displays and information for you. This includes: New York Social Network, Social Circles, Club Getaway, The Lunch Club, and
Meet Market Adventures.
For a full list of exhibitors, visit http://www.nyexpo.net.
SEE YOU ON SATURDAY!!
Thursday, April 12, 2007
Stressed Out? Get Tips on April 15, 8:00 PM EDT
On Sunday, April 15, I'll be sharing tips on dealing with stress on the Own Your Power Radio Show. After you file your taxes, tune in at 8:00 PM EDT -- either online for live streaming or NewsTalk WTPS 1080 AM in Miami! During the ME TIME segment, I'll be chatting with host Simone Kelly-Brown about how to manage your multiple roles and deal with stressful work and life events.
DID YOU KNOW that April has been designated Stress Awareness Month? Sponsored by The Health Resource Network (HRN), a non-profit health education organization, Stress Awareness Month is a national, cooperative effort to inform people about the dangers of stress, successful coping strategies, and harmful misconceptions about stress that are prevalent in our society.
Thursday, March 22, 2007
"Reduce Stress-Focus Energy" March 27 at 8:00PM
Tuesday, March 06, 2007
Free Career Development Teleclass March 21 at 8:00 PM
Thursday, February 15, 2007
Job-Hopper or Re-Careerist: How Often Should You Switch?
Your comments about people with "high competencies and knowledge" who "want to venture in life, try new ideas, bring creative thoughts, [and] implement them" with different employers made me think. I can remember back-in-the-day when HR folks used to label people who changed jobs frequently as job-hoppers.
This typically didn't convey a positive image -- the connotation was: "This person doesn't have the ability or stick-to-it-ive-ness to hold down a job." Job-hoppers often were pre-judged to have been the cause of their own "demise" -- be it an attitude problem (didn't get along with the boss), a skill-deficiency (couldn't do the work) or a work-ethic issue (didn't get to work on-time).
Not to belittle the importance of the career success factors I just mentioned, I believe the hypothesis about people with high competencies and knowledge [like readers of this blog!] may be correct. Perhaps you've changed jobs to find the right "fit" (with your manager, team or company). Or, maybe you've made lateral moves to gain a cross-section of experience within a company.
These thoughts made me recall an MSN article I read last year about re-careerists. It didn't offer an exact definition, but suggested that re-careerists "challeng[e] established ideas about education, jobs, and careers, and [find] new opportunities for personal and financial growth in the changing job market." That's what Competent Advantage TM is all about -- people who are proactive about building their strengths to secure positions that enable them to achieve great things.
I figure I'm in my 9th "job" (not counting my teaching or independent consulting gigs while working for other employers) in my career. How about YOU?
Friday, February 09, 2007
Outrageous Transitions: Career Twists & Turns

Monday, February 05, 2007
Ever Made an Outrageous Career Transition?
Each of us is free to use the slogan individually and share it as a gentle reminder to help each other press on despite challenges or naysayers. I thought I'd share it with you to begin a discussion that's been on my mind lately -- career transitions.
Have you ever made an OUTRAGEOUS career transition? You know, the type when you first told people the move you wanted to make they said: "What?!? No one's ever done THAT before?" or "Are you CRAZY? They'll never hire someone with your background?" I invite you to post your stories -- the good, the bad and the ugly -- and I will do the same. It's a great way to give encouragement and help each other avoid potential pitfalls.
Speaking of making bold transitions, my pal Diane Danielson (founder of Downtown Women's Club) would love to hear YOUR opinions on workplace issues like "opting out" out of the workforce. Take a few moments to complete her survey at: http://www.zoomerang.com/recipient/survey-intro.zgi?p=WEB226447M65N8.
Friday, January 26, 2007
Top 10 HOT Jobs for '07
Fast Company has posted its take on the Top 10 HOT Jobs for 2007. Since one of the key components of the Competent Advantage TM program is Know Your Market, I thought it would be useful to share this with you. Two jobs that were of particular interest to me were:
- Viral Marketers
- Bloggers
Fast Company suggests that "it takes a creative soul with an endless amount of determination and innovation to thrive in these [hot] fields." Review the list, and take time to envision your ideal career situation in terms of the role/position, environment and work/life balance. You might get lucky and find out that your Competent Advantage TM lies in one of these new growth areas!
Women can WIN in 2007
It's hosted by Cathy Benko, Principal and High Technology Sector Leader for Deloitte Consulting LLP and National Managing Director of Deloitte's Initiative for the Retention and Advancement of Women.
What I think is cool is that the blog used to be internal; now, they've opened it up to enable other professionals to benefit from the dialogue and idea exchange. WIN was launched at Deloitte 12 years ago. As a woman who's spent the past 7 years in consulting (internal and external), that says a lot to me about their commitment to the advancement of women in the industry!
Ladies, what has your company done for you lately?
Friday, January 05, 2007
New Year, New Focus, New Stress?
You can't turn around anywhere these days without seeing (or hearing) an ad about New Year's resolutions. Recognizing that it sometimes can be hard to settle back into "reality" after a holiday break, I wanted to take a bit of the pressure OFF as you begin to refine your focus for the new year.
Don't get me wrong -- I'm all for reflecting back to plan ahead (like described in the last post). By the way, if you haven't already, I'd suggest you take a look at MyGoals.com as a resource for your goal-setting (you can get online reminders) for your action items.
I just don't want you to become overwhelmed by the magnitude of your resolutions. I did a Google search on "Stress & Resolutions" and came across some great tips on HealthyMinds.org. They include not taking on too much and congratulating yourself when you achieve something (a personal favorite because it's so easy to forget and move on to the next thing).
This year, we'll be talking more about stress and the impact on your professional success. After all, how can you Discover Your Competent Advantage TM if you're too stressed to take the first step?! Keep an eye out for more information on our NEW stress management program.
Also, be sure you've signed up for our newsletter so you can get the dial-in numbers for the Work & Money tele-series to negotiate a better 2007 Bonus on January 17 and January 23 at 8:00 PM EST.
Wednesday, December 20, 2006
How Will You Make 2007 Better Than 2006?
As you look back on 2006, how would you rate your professional accomplishments?
- What were the high-lights? As strange as it may seem, it’s important to take note of things that you did well. Don’t be shy – write them down! Why? Because these descriptions can come in handy later (in a performance discussion with your manager, or in an interview with a recruiter).
- What were the low-lights? It’s just as important to keep track of the things that didn’t go quite as well as you would’ve hoped. Why? Having a clear sense of what areas you’d to like improve can help you focus and channel your energies.
Based on your reflection, what professional goals will you set for 2007?
When you get back from the holidays, we'll be ready to help you start the year STRONG!
Sign up for our newsletter (box to your right) so you can get registration details for my two-part January teleclass series: Work & Money -- The Real Connection in collaboration with Jacquette Timmons & Sterling Investment Management.
Until then, I wish you every happiness this Holiday Season and prosperity in the New Year. I look forward to helping you achieve your goals in 2007!
Wednesday, December 06, 2006
Can Video Help You Land Your Next Job?
Sound familiar? Remember Aleksey Vayner's video to UBS?
We've talked before about the pros and cons of electronic portfolios as a job search strategy in general, and his in particular. In this case, 7 lucky winners have earned internships with companies such as Gap Inc., NBC and Yahoo! One winner will even work at Morgan Stanley, which challenges my earlier premise that investment banking firms wouldn't see videos as a viable job search technique.
Of course, these video submissions focus on the applicants' personal philosophies, giving them a chance to articulate how their philosophy gives them a competent advantage over their peers -- which is what you want to do with any of the tools in your career portfolio. I'm sure this won't be the last time we see videos as a search technique.
LIGHTS, CAMERA, ACTION! What would you say?
How Will You Spend Your Bonus?
Tune into the Competent Advantage TM Gcast channel for a podcast with tips on reducing your debt and increasing your savings to improve your lifestyle.
Tuesday, November 21, 2006
Thanksgiving Greetings & Year-End Preview

When you get back from the Thanksgiving holiday, we'll be ready to help you end the year strong!
Stay tuned for our year-end podcasts including:
- Financial Tips to Manage Your Year-End Bonus
- Practical Hints to Master the Holiday Party Circuit
Sign up for our newsletter (box on right side of this site) to get registration details for our January 2007 teleclasses:
- Not Satisfied with Your Bonus, Now What?
- Build on Your Strengths: Get in the 2007 Bonus Pool
Have a Happy Thanksgiving!
Thursday, November 02, 2006
What's Your Competent Advantage Score?
In general, assessments can help you track progress towards your goals and make wiser decisions. The Competent Advantage TM self-assessment will help you:
- determine how you're progressing towards your ultimate career goals and
- make informed, competent decisions about activities and skills to keep moving forward
Visit the Resources page of our website to get the self-assessment, access the career goals survey and download other tip sheets from the Competent Advantage TM program.
Tuesday, October 31, 2006
On Halloween, it's OK to "Do it Scared!"
In our last post, we reviewed tips to help you prepare for your year-end review. Now, you can learn how to raise important issues with your colleagues or ask for feedback from your manager.
On this "tricky" day, why not TREAT yourself to tips on how to take risks and have difficult conversations at work -- even if it's a bit scary at first. How can you do it?
Tune into our NEW podcast channel on Gcast! The first podcast called Do it Scared! has practical ideas on how to prepare for and conduct courageous conversations. Tune in and then let me know what topics you'd like to hear more about.
Don't forget to subcribe so you can get regular updates on future career podcasts that you can listen to on your PC or download to your iPod.
Thursday, October 26, 2006
Ready for Your Year-End Review?
- Reference specific accomplishments and contributions you made to the organization this year?
- Suggest relevant developmental opportunities (coaching, training, or mentoring) to build on your strengths?
- Recommend ways to expand your role or take on new responsibilities in 2007?
Where would you like to be in your career this time next year?
Tell us some of the strategies you'll use to get ahead in 2007. Take our Career Goals survey.
In the meantime, PLAN AHEAD! Create your roadmap and equip yourself with the skills to get there!
Thursday, October 19, 2006
Has Vayner Ruined E-Portfolios as a Job Search Strategy?
Since we've had recent posts on career portfolios, I thought I'd continue the thread.
What role can electronic portfolios play in your career management strategy?
Electronic portfolios use interactive multimedia to increase the range and type of materials that can be included in a portfolio. They enable you to take full advantage of advanced technology and utilize graphics, animation, sound and video.
Forbes has all but relegated Vayner to its Career Hall of Shame. I've reviewed the video excerpt -- aside from the somewhat suggestive dancing scenes, is there any value in his creativity? You can probably bet that no other aspiring I-bankers created a similar montage.
However, there is one definite downside to his approach -- it doesn't appear as if Vayner really KNEW HIS TARGET INDUSTRY. Given the traditionally-conservative nature of investment banking, the less likely it is that the video would have been seen as a viable introduction to his capabilities.
While electronic portfolios can be valuable tools to help you stand out from the crowd, you have to know how receptive your audience will be to this career management tool. What do you think?
Thursday, October 12, 2006
Women: Let's Empower Each Other on November 4
WCLC endeavors to empower women of color by providing a forum in which they can obtain knowledge to develop leadership skills and enhance professional growth. Workshops will include:
- Changing Directions of Your Career: Uncover the Explorer in You! (from my Competent Advantage TM series)
- So Now You're a Leader: A Guide to Policy Making and Event Planning for the Young Leader: Arika Easley, Stevens Institute of Technology; Dara Govan, Esq.
- Making a Dollar out of Fifteen Cents: An Introduction to Investing: Candice Beaty, Northwestern Mutual
If you are in the New York metro area, DON'T MISS YOUR CHANCE -- REGISTER NOW! Your $30 investment includes access to sessions and admission to the Closing Reception.
Contact: Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Incorporated, Rho Kappa Omega Chapter
Phone: (201) 344-9225 Email: aka_pkq@yahoo.com
Address: P.O. Box 15537, Jersey City, NJ 07305
Wednesday, October 04, 2006
Does Your Career Portfolio Match Your Shoes?
A career portfolio is:
- a reflection of your professional self
- a record of your professional (or academic) development
- tangible evidence of your "on-the-job" (or "in-the-classroom") performance
With that said, what do you think you should include in your career portfolio? Many career portfolios include:
- Resume or CV
- Licenses or Certifications
- Letters of reference
- Transcripts or diplomas
- Professional affiliation documentation
- Work samples (e.g., reports, presentations, etc.) With samples, it is important that you eliminate information that could be considered confidential.
The exercise of creating your career portfolio can help you to critically examine your life experiences and accomplishments. If you are preparing for an interview (or a performance appraisal meeting with your manager), the process enables you to highlight specific accomplishments and identify valuable workplace skills.
As usual, tell me about your experiences and thoughts. Soon, we'll discuss tips for organizing your career portfolio.
Wednesday, September 27, 2006
Top 5 Skills Gained from Volunteer Work
Here are the TOP 5 Career Skills you have developed or acquired by getting involved in your community: {online drumroll, please}
- Communication (72%)
- Leadership (69%)
- Teamwork (59%)
- Fundraising (47%)
- Problem solving AND Public Speaking (tie at 44%)
In today's session, we talked about how important it is to be clear about your goals for a volunteer experience -- whether they are purely charitable/philanthropic or include a professional component. Either perspective is OK; just be sure you (and the organization) are clear from the beginning about what you hope to achieve.
When both parties are on the same page, it can be a win-win experience for all. This became obvious to me as I read your comments on the recognition and support you've received from organizations for whom you volunteer, including:
- Introductions to executives/senior leaders
- References for work
- Invitations to networking and special events
All are important for taking your career to the next level. There's still time to tell us about your volunteer experiences. Take our brief survey at: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.asp?u=263272577354. I look forward to hearing from you!
Monday, September 25, 2006
Do You Have a Career Portfolio?
The ability to effectively showcase your relevant knowledge and skills is critical, whether you are seeking a new opportunity or staying with your current employer. Along with a tailored resume, a career portfolio can provide further evidence of your professional qualifications and abilities.
What is a portfolio?
A portfolio is a personal collection of information describing and documenting [your] achievements and learning. As a visual representation of your skills, capabilities and knowledge, it shows your potential to add value to an organization.
Why create a Career Portfolio?
You can use a career portfolio to:
- market your capabilities in a job interview
- support a request to your manager for a promotion or raise
- document the quality and quantity of your professional development
- demonstrate prior work or learning experiences for educational credit
Career portfolios have become a nearly universal requirement for the hiring process. But, if you already have a secure job (i.e., one that's not on the Endangered Careers List), you can view a career portfolio as your insurance against unforeseen shake-ups at your company. Keeping this self-promotion tool up-to-date also can be a good exercise in self-evaluation.
In upcoming posts, we’ll help you to organize your career portfolio and use it as a tool in your career development and advancement.
Thursday, September 14, 2006
Can Volunteering Make You a Better Leader?
My NEXT teleclass on Volunteerism & Leadership is on Wednesday, September 27 at 12:00 PM EST with the Downtown Women's Club.
Join us for an interactive Competent Advantage(TM) - Downtown Women’s Club teleclass that will help you:
- Identify volunteer opportunities that align with your personal motivators
- Create volunteer experiences that enable you to practice and enhance your professional skills
- Position your volunteer experiences in performance management discussions
- Use volunteer experiences to step out of your “professional comfort zone"
RSVP to teleclass@downtownwomensclub.com and you'll receive the dial-in number. Hope to chat with you on September 27th!
Monday, August 21, 2006
Can't Get No (Job) Satisfaction?
Recently, I spoke with Tim Mulvaney Founder & President of The Mulvaney Group. He and I got to talking about our clients and reflecting on some of the challenges people face with achieving career fulfillment -- particularly the Courageous Conversations TM with their managers when things aren't going so well.
Well, before we knew it, we came up with some cool tips to leverage your Competent Advantage TM to increase your job satisfaction and take charge of your career. Since it's still summer, we've made it easy for you to get this info while you're catching your last rays on the beach:
- LISTEN to our podcast on the web: http://www.themulvaneygroup.com/2006/08/live_conversati_1.html
- You can also READ the tip sheet
- Or, you can DOWNLOAD the podcast to your iPod from the iTunes Music Store! Search "Podcasts" for "Courageous Conversations"
Let me know what you think!
Thursday, August 10, 2006
NY BizAcademy Students Record Commercial's for TODAY'S BAZAAR
View Capture the Moment commercial: http://homepage.mac.com/sfdc_foundation/BizAcademyNY/iMovieTheater123.html
View VENE (Virtual Expressions n Emotions) commercial: http://homepage.mac.com/sfdc_foundation/BizAcademyNY/iMovieTheater124.html
Don't miss the chance to buy their limited edition, handcrafted merchandise!
JOIN US TODAY from 4:00 - 6:00 PM at the Sales Bazaar at 5 West 63rd Street in New York.
Monday, August 07, 2006
NY BizAcademy Students Produce Handcrafted Merchandise

Here's a quick update on the BizAcademy program. We're about to begin a fantastic second week of training and hands-on experiences!
Last Thursday, each company presented their concepts and business plans to "investors" to receive seed capital for their ventures. Above are two photos I took during last Friday's Manufacturing Day.
The two companies VENE (Virtual Expressions 'n Emotions) and Capture the Moment will be selling their handcrafted candles and picture frames THIS THURSDAY, from 4:00 - 6:00 PM, at the West Side YMCA located at 5 West 63rd Street.
We hope you can join us for the BizAcademy Sales Bazaar!
Sunday, July 30, 2006
InStep Consulting Founder to Teach BizAcademy for NYC Youth
In this ten-day entrepreneurial workshop, high school students will gain hands-on experience while learning business basics. Teams will be responsible for managing all phases of their businesses including prototyping ideas, pitching to investors, manufacturing, marketing and selling office-related products. Participants will use salesforce.com’s on-demand CRM solution to track revenues and expenses and to manage contacts.
I'm excited to help these youth gain fundamental business skills and discover their competent advantageTM!
Stay tuned for more posts about their accomplishments -- including a “Sales Bazaar” at the West Side YMCA on Thursday, August 10th.
Thursday, July 20, 2006
Ladies, Do You Know What You're Worth?
Babcock, author of Women Don't Ask, found those who negotiated received 7% to 8% more than they were initially offered. So, what holds us back?
We've discussed this topic previously in this community. In fact, Nina pointed us to another Babcock 2003 Harvard Business School study that described three key factors:
- Socialization: being taught that it's not appropriate to ask for what we want
- Penalization: being reprimanded or denied opportunities because we are seen as being "pushy" when negotiating
- Frustration: leaving the situation instead of using our skills as leverage points for growth
In the spirit of career portabilityTM, I'd suggest that we must resist the socialization trends and make the ask. Try to minimize penalization by being conscious of your communication style and attempting to adapt your communication techniques based on your target audience.
And, most of all, don't let frustration cause you to leave something on the table! Be prepared -- know what you have accomplished in your current (and previous) roles. Know the average salary ranges for your industry and position.
Ladies (and gents), I'd love to hear from you. Do you have success stories to share? Lessons that you've learned? Advice that you'd like to pass along?
Tuesday, July 11, 2006
Meet Komal Gulzar -- Intern with InStep Consulting
CE: Why did you decide to do an internship this summer?
KG: I wanted to explore a new field in business management and learn about what this industry has to offer me once I graduate with a bachelor’s degree. I had the opportunity to get insight into the accounting and finance fields last year. So, I chose Business Consulting this summer. I was curious about what role a consultant plays and how he/she helps businesses. So far, I have learned that a consultant helps the employer and the employees bond to improve communication and effectiveness on both sides.
CE: What do you hope to gain from your internship?
KG: In the end, it’s all about the experience. Experience helps us make better choices and decide which career to pick. Why would we choose one career and not the other? It all depends on the quality of experience we have.
In my opinion, there are two types of internship experiences: one where we just "kill time" to fulfill the program requirements. We play a passive role and just expect the internship to be a good experience.
The second type makes all the difference. This is when we really put a lot of effort into it. We’re curious and ask a lot of questions. We want to know every little detail about every thing at the host site. We not only ask how something is done, but also why not do it some other way. Even if we’re not really interested in this field, we take it as a challenge and try to meet our goals.
CE: What advice would you give your fellow JFEW interns? (Jewish Foundation for the Education of Women)
KG: In short, we should treat our internships as if they were our first jobs. We should clarify that what we do in an internship is not for the supervisor or somebody else, but for ourselves.
Yes, we do help the company in the process; but the goal is to learn. And, if we don’t put our hearts into it, we’re not helping anybody, but wasting everybody’s time. Think of it as if it were for your own business or company. Wear what you do.
CE: Tell us what YOU think!
KG: Your answers to these questions might be different – maybe you want to explore a new field or to discover something new about an industry you’re already interested in. Don't take my word for it; experience it for yourself and then share your thoughts with the rest of us. We would love to hear from you!
Saturday, July 08, 2006
InStep Consulting has a Summer Intern!
Komal Gulzar, a senior at Brooklyn College, is helping out with market research and business development activities. She comes to InStep via the College's Magner Center for Career Development and Internships. It's been great working with her and sharing some insight into the world of consulting.
I've invited her to share her perspective on the internship and her career goals with this community. So, keep an eye out for her postings over the next few weeks!
Thursday, June 29, 2006
Take Advantage of the Summer
Is there one NEW activity you can try that might help you achieve a short-term goal? How about finding a NEW ...
- Volunteer opportunity that enables you to enhance a key skill -- maybe there's even an outdoor component! OR ...
- Magazine or journal that will update you on latest trends in your industry -- handy for those long bus/train rides to the beach!
Switch it up a bit -- check out the local cafes in your neighborhood as you walk home. Maybe one of them has a special evening for networking activities (book club, meet-'n-greet, etc.) -- great ways to take advantage of the air conditioning AND meet new people!
What do you think? Post your suggestions for fun ways to take advantage of the summer!
Monday, June 12, 2006
Competent Advantage Session June 13 at 6:30 PM
The event is Tuesday, June 13 from 6:30 - 8:30 PM in midtown Manhattan. As usual, it will be an interactive workshop in which you'll have the opportunity to analyze your personal competencies for personal growth and career advancement.
RSVP NOW! Save $3.00 if you pre-pay in advance via PayPal.
The Black Ivy Alumni League is committed to cultivating the community of over 50,000 alumni of African descent by serving as a professional development resource and promoting civic engagement. I am honored to be part of their activities. I hope to see you tomorrow!
Wednesday, June 07, 2006
Is Your Job on the Endangered Careers List?
- Computer Operators (believe it or not!)
- Mail-Machine Operators
- Telephone Operators
What do I mean? Well, Merriam-Webster Online defines portable as: “capable of being moved especially with ease.” From a career management perspective, it means determining what things you can easily take with you from one job to the next. No, I’m not referring to your stapler or mouse pad! I’m talking about your skills and work-related qualities that will help you succeed in your next opportunity.
The first step in figuring out your Career Portability Factor™ is a self-assessment. You might start by answering the following question:
If you had to pack up and leave your job tomorrow, what skills would you put in your briefcase?
Your answers will come from reviewing your assignments, accomplishments and responsibilities in your current role. What have you done? How have you added value to your organization? Under what conditions have you achieved your success? For each of the accomplishments and responsibilities, make a list of the associated skills and qualities. This is the first component of your Career Portability Factor™.
Friday, May 26, 2006
Wednesday, May 10, 2006
Discover Your Competent Advantage on May 17!
The Manhattan Chapter of National Coalition of 100 Black Women, Inc. will host my next Competent AdvantageTM seminar on:
Donation: $20.00
RSVP: ncbwmanhattanchapter@yahoo.com
Phone: (212) 642-3758
Come out to Refresh, Renew and Review Your Career!
Tuesday, May 09, 2006
Friday, April 21, 2006
Refresh, Review and Renew your Career in May!
On Wednesday, May 3, I'll be helping Brooklyn's best and brightest graduating seniors from 14 colleges and universities market themselves to prospective employers. The Brooklyn College to Career Expo at the New York Marriott at Brooklyn Bridge will host 75-100 actively recruiting employers. The Competent Advantage TM seminar, at 9:30 AM in Salon A, will focus on practical strategies to develop a personal marketing pitch and enhance your job search portfolio.
On Wednesday, May 17, the Manhattan Chapter of National Coalition of 100 Black Women is hosting a Competent Advantage TM seminar to educate members and the wider community on career advancement and leadership development. At 6:30 PM, we'll be discussing practical ways to leverage your strengths and succeed in the workplace. The Manhattan Chapter of NCBW is dedicated to advocacy, leadership, and gender equity. This is accomplished through mentorship and a series of conferences, networking and special events. I'm excited to be part of their spring professional development programming!
On Tuesday, May 23, I'll be chatting with women entrepreneurs at the Network Enterprise, hosted at the Grace Institute. From 6-7:00 PM, we'll be talking shop about marketing and expanding small business enterprises. Like me, the Grace Institute believes in building a base for continuous professional and personal growth. I can't wait to meet all of you fabulous entrepreneurs!
Sunday, April 16, 2006
If Your Career Were a Snake, Would It Bite You in the ...?
My company, InStep Consulting, recently submitted a proposal to an organization seeking training and development services. Due to the critical nature, I decided to call the Purchasing department on the due date to confirm our proposal had been received. I’d already tracked the package via FedEx, and noted it had been recorded as delivered at 9:37 AM. However, at 10:00 AM, the Purchasing department could not locate our proposal. I made a follow-up call to FedEx to confirm what I read on their website. Of course, the representative could not offer any new information; however, he did offer to contact the driver to confirm that the package had been delivered to the organization’s office (not just the building). In the meantime, I emailed a copy of the delivery confirmation I’d downloaded off the website to the Purchasing director.
I’ll fast-forward to my last conversation with the Purchasing director that afternoon, which went something like this:
PD: “The delivery confirmation you sent does not show a delivery address. Are you sure that your package was addressed correctly?”Ok, maybe you’re still wondering why I chose to recall this story. Upon reflecting on my experience, I thought of some potential applications. When things are too close, we can’t always see the whole picture. For example, when you hold a book too close to your face, the words are too blurry to read.
CE: “Yes, the package was addressed to your organization to the attention of your proposal reviewer. I provided your shipping address to my production company, Printers-R-Us. Printers-R-Us shipped my proposal to you directly.”
PD: “Wait a minute, did you say Printers-R-Us?”
CE: “Yes, why do you ask?”
PD: “Oh, I have a package from Printers-R-Us right here – it’s been here since early this morning! I was looking for a proposal from InStep Consulting. You’re all set!”
In your career, have you ever missed out on a project or opportunity that was right “under your nose?” When you found out about it later, did you wonder how you overlooked it? Luckily, in this story, I was able to help the director find the proverbial “snake” (or proposal) by describing a bit about our production process. That conversation helped her to “adjust her lens” and find the package on her desk. Are you able to step back and “adjust your lens” to discover potentially hidden career opportunities?
The miscommunication described in my story also can apply to career development and exploration. The director was looking for a proposal (and, thus, a package) with my company’s name. While the proposal inside clearly indicated my company name, the package more clearly referenced the production company. Does your “career packaging” – perhaps in the form of a resume or cover letter – convey the best impression of your accomplishments?
Just food for thought -- let me know what you think. Take care, and don’t let the career “snake” bite YOU!
Sunday, April 02, 2006
Spring Forward into 2nd Quarter!
How will you stay on track and leverage your Competent AdvantageTM in the second quarter?
Last April (in preparation for tax filing), we talked about federal education tax credits and company tuition reimbursement programs -- two great options to help you receive training and keep your skills current.
- As you think about your upcoming projects and responsibilities, what new skills would be helpful to learn in this quarter?
- As you think about the next few months, how will you recharge and get re-energized?
- As you think ahead, what events or activities would be relevant for you to attend?
Friday, March 17, 2006
More Thoughts on Staying Motivating at Work
We talked about motivation from both the employee and manager perspective. Today, I wanted to share my TOP 3 Strategies for Managers to Motivate their Employees:
- Set appropriate expectations – as you create job descriptions and define project responsibilities. Give people a “line of sight” on how what they do contributes to your company’s success. People want to see where their jobs might take them. Help your employees see the internal career paths so you don’t lose their intellectual capital to your competitors!
- Keep communication lines open – Talk with your employees to find out how they’re doing on a regular basis, not just during annual performance discussions.
- Use creative incentives – Effective incentives can include non-monetary recognitions of a "job well done," such as a feature in the company newsletter, or an opportunity to represent your team or company at a special event.
Thanks, again, to Maggie for having me on her show! :-)
Tuesday, March 14, 2006
Reminder: Get Sirius about Your Career on March 15th!
As a preview, I’d like to share my TOP 5 Strategies for staying motivated in the workplace:
- Recruit the right team: surround yourself with people who both support and challenge you. This can be a mix of people you work with, friends, family or other colleagues. Pick the RIGHT PEOPLE and you’ll get the RIGHT ENERGY!
- Create the right environment: figure out where in your office you are most productive. This might be at your desk, in a conference room or the cafeteria. When you need to focus on a task, go to that space to heighten your concentration. If you have less flexibility to move around, envision a FUN WORKSPACE, then CREATE IT!
- Plan for small successes: “chunk” your projects and goals into short-term objectives. That way, you’ll have little WINS to celebrate along the way.
- Build rewards into your work plan: celebrate as you achieve your short-term objectives. Remember to value your accomplishments, even as you plan ahead for future endeavors.
- Do the work: find a way to get started. Start with an aspect of the task that you enjoy or that is simple to complete. Then, work your way up to the less pleasing, more challenging aspects. The sooner you get started, the sooner you’ll be done – “just do it!”
What do you think? Post your questions and comments here, or call into the show TOMORROW at: 866-675-6675.
Wednesday, March 01, 2006
Sell Yourself into your "Dream Job!"
Our first HR professional to share her views is Karen Robinson, Account Manager with Career Blazers, Inc. Career Blazers offers Temporary Staffing, Legal Staffing and Permanent Placement services to Fortune 500 companies in the Northeast and Mid-Atlantic regions of the United States.
Since January 2003, Karen has managed recruiting for Career Blazers’ premier clients. (Think financial services, advertising, and other leading industries!) Karen describes recruiting as a “puzzle” – the client has one piece, the candidate another. She enjoys helping make the pieces fit together. Blazing her own trail in staffing and recruiting since 1992, Karen knows a thing or two about how to position oneself during a job search or career transition.
Here are Karen’s TOP 10 Suggestions to “Sell Yourself into Your Dream Job!”:
- Network, network, network – in creative environments so that you can practice telling your story in a relaxed environment.
- Join and participate in organizations – be active so that you can be noticed for your talents and “competent advantage.TM”
- Identify the trends and changes in your field of interest.
- Incorporate visualization into your life. – If you can see it, it will become your reality.
- Research, research, research – identify competitors, latest news or anything that will give you an “educated edge.”
- Set goals – daily, weekly and monthly to help you plan ahead.
- Incorporate time management into everything you do.
- Have a current reference letter from a former supervisor or someone in upper management that highlights your accomplishments.
- Go on “Interview Runs” – Seek out opportunities to practice your interviewing skills, especially if you have been out of the market for a while.
- Once you “land,” spend the first few weeks getting the lay of the land. – Figure out who’s who, how the team works, and how upper management handles team relations.
So, what do YOU think? Have you tried any of these strategies? Which ones have worked best for you?
It's hard to pick the best one, but I rely a lot on # 5 – research. With all of our gadgets and technology, you can stay on top of trends in your industry in so many ways! It’s important during a search or transition to demonstrate how you can add value to an organization (using your skills and competencies). Staying aware of “in-demand” skills in your industry will help you know which previous experiences to highlight in an interview, or what training you might seek to improve your proficiency.
Thanks, again, to Karen for sharing her tips with the Competent AdvantageTM community!
Wednesday, February 15, 2006
Colette gets “Sirius” about Career Development on March 15th!
On Wednesday, March 15th at 6:00 PM Eastern, I’ll be on Martha Stewart Living Radio revealing tips on how to stay motivated during your career exploration.
You will have three ways to ask me questions and share your experiences:
- CALL IN to the show at 1-866-675-6675
- POST your question here in the Competent Advantage TM community
- EMAIL your question to me at info@instepconsulting.com
If I answer your question or share your story on the air, I'll be sure to keep the source confidential unless you tell me otherwise.
If you’re not already a Sirius satellite radio customer, you can sign up for a FREE TRIAL at: http://www.sirius.com/WhatIsIt/TryIt
Hope to chat with you on March 15th!
Saturday, February 11, 2006
Competent Advantage will be 1-Year Old NEXT MONTH!

It's hard to believe that the Competent Advantage community began with the first post on March 1, 2005! I'm looking forward to another great year of dialogue and information exchange.
Stay tuned for exciting programs and events to celebrate this milestone! This includes my upcoming feature on Martha Stewart Living Radio!
Take care, Colette
Friday, February 03, 2006
Get Motivated with a Quick Change in Scenery

View of Salt Lake City landscape from The Garden at Temple Square (2/2/2006)
In the Competent Advantage TM workshop, we ask: If you had a completely free day, what would you do?
We ask that you reflect on your "free day fantasies" as a first step to discovering your personal motivators and drives. A key goal of the program is to help you align your role/function with your motivators to create opportunities for career success.
"So, what does this have to do with Salt Lake City?", you may ask. Well, a change in scenery often can be motivational. I had the opportunity to visit Salt Lake yesterday on business. I didn't have a completely "free day;" but, I did have time to enjoy my view of the Wasatch mountain range during my lunch break. I walked away from the trip rejuvenated -- open space and great landscapes just do that for me!
How does this align with my career/business?
- I am determined to explore ways to develop additional business west of the Mississippi
- And, I took advantage of a new technology -- mobile blogging -- to share this picture with you!
How will you leverage your "free day fantasies"?
PS -- I sent this message using PIX-FLIX Messaging service from Verizon Wireless! To learn how you can snap pictures with your wireless phone visit www.verizonwireless.com/getitnow/getpix.
Wednesday, January 18, 2006
Can Pension Plan changes impact your Career Development?
Not linked to career development, you may think? What does this trend signal for your career?
Employee contributions to retirement and healthcare plans have become the modus operandi for most companies. I’m sure most of us have become quite accustomed to it. However, these aren’t the only HR arenas in which some of the responsibility has been shifted to employees.
Another trend has been the move towards self-directed learning. “What’s that?” you may ask. Well, you may recognize it as e-learning or online courses you can take at your desk, on your laptop or even from your home computer. Or, maybe you have the ability to apply for tuition reimbursement that enables you to continue your education or pursue an advanced degree.
I’m not necessarily debating the pros or cons of self-directed learning (although I’m eager to hear your views). However, this trend strongly suggests you adopt a proactive approach to your career development:
- Make it a point this year to become aware of all learning options (formal and informal) that your organization offers.
- Figure out which ones will be beneficial for your current (or your next) opportunity.
- Create an action-oriented development plan … in other words, “just do it!”
Let 2006 be the year you take charge of your career!
Wednesday, January 04, 2006
How will you step out of your "comfort zone" in 2006?
What will you do differently in 2006 to advance your career objectives?
Sometimes it’s easy to coast, to take the familiar road on our way to professional success. There’s a somewhat famous expression (I apologize for not being able to reference the source) about the definition of insanity – doing the same thing, in the same way and expecting different results.
What will you do differently? I have a couple of thoughts or ideas – how about:
- Sitting with a new group of people at lunch (which could be a way to expand your network)
- Taking on a leadership role in a professional association (which could create a “safe space” to try out new skills)
- Learning to speak a different language or use new software (which could increase your marketability)
Wednesday, December 28, 2005
Looking Back on 2005
As you look back on 2005, how would you rate your professional accomplishments?
- What were the highlights? As strange as it may seem, it’s important to take note of things that you did well. Don’t be shy – write them down! Why? Because these descriptions can come in handy later (at your year-end performance review with your manager, or on your next interview with a recruiter). Besides if you don’t write it down, you’ll probably forget subtle details that could make your story that much more compelling.
- What were the low-lights? It’s just as important to keep track of the things that didn’t go quite as well as you would’ve hoped. Why? Having a clear sense of what areas you’d to like improve can help you focus and channel your energies. It also will help you identify the resources you’ll need to make the changes become a reality.
Based on your reflection, what professional goals will you set for 2006?
And, what resources and experiences will you seek to help you accomplish those goals? How about ...
- Classes or training
- Mentors
- New opportunities
- Professional associations
- Trusted advisors
On a personal note, I’d rate my 2005 professional accomplishments a 7 on a scale of 1-10. I was able to achieve some of the goals I set (e.g., developing the InStep Consulting website) and embark on new endeavors I hadn’t even considered, such as launching this blog!
In 2006, I plan to continue expanding the Competent Advantage TM program through the KIP Learning Center, and find new partners to bring more career development resources to this network.
I’m looking forward to exchanging ideas with you in 2006.
Until then, have a HAPPY NEW YEAR!
Friday, December 16, 2005
‘Tis the season to be jolly … not for career folly!
So, it’s that time of year again – holiday parties sponsored by your company and/or professional associations. With good sense and foresight, these events can be excellent venues for you to demonstrate your competent advantage.TM
Here are some tips to help you be the "life of the party," but NOT the subject of post-event gossip.
Before the event:
- Get a feel for the mood and expectations for the party. Do people dress up or is business attire more appropriate? Regardless of the official attire, you should always dress to impress.
- Will there be any announcements or formal activities? And, if so, when will they occur? The last thing you want to do is stroll into the room just as your President or CEO is making his/her holiday toast!
During the event:
- Watch your food and alcohol consumption. Have fun, but be careful not to overindulge. This is NOT the party for you to demonstrate how many tequila shots you can drink or how many cocktail shrimp you can eat!
- Take notice of who attends the event. In addition to chatting with coworkers, look for ways to informally connect with managers or executives. It’s not necessarily the place to give a long speech about why you deserve a raise or promotion. However, you should always be prepared to give a 30-second pitch about your role in your organization. Be sensitive to their desire to talk about business. Parties can be great occasions to discuss hobbies and other interests that identify otherwise unknown commonalities.
- Be aware of your surroundings. Take notice of when the party starts to wind down. Why? Well, do you really want to be around when the cater waiters are clearing the tables and putting up chairs? Remember, you don’t have to go home but …
After the event:
- Make sure you have a safe mode of transportation for the evening.
- If you do happen to connect with a new colleague, make an effort to reach out via phone or email within a couple of days. Expanding your network at holiday parties is a great way to leverage your competent advantage.TM
Thursday, December 01, 2005
Have 6 Minutes to Plan for 2006?
There are many ways that we can help you discover your competent advantage. Rather than guess at what those strategies might be, I'm asking for your input.
How will you take your career to the next level in 2006?
Take a moment to complete our brief survey (~6 minutes): http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.asp?u=350101560332
Thursday, November 10, 2005
SIGN UP for Dec. 7 Competent Advantage Workshop
For those of you in the New York metropolitan area, I hope you can join me for the next Competent AdvantageTM Workshop, offered via the KIP Learning Center.
When: Wednesday, December 7 from 6:30 - 8:30 PM
Where: Midtown New York
Why: You're cool and you want to get a jump start on planning your 2006 career objectives! (besides, midtown is really nice in December with all of the holiday decorations ...)
To view the full course description, check out: http://kipbusinessreport.com/Learning_Center/course_pages/CD-Ellis-CompetentAdv.html
For more information on the workshop location and how to register, contact the KIP Learning Center at (646) 546-5671. Hope to see you there!